I read a lot of books; around seventy-five to one hundred per year if you look at my Goodreads account. Most of the psychology based books are useful and I keep them around to refer to from time to time. Every few years, however, I come across a book that makes me think, "Everyone...I mean EVERYONE...needs to read this book."
Why Won't You Apologize?
Why Won't You Apologize? by Harriet Lerner is a primer on apologies. When should we apologize? How should we apologize? What does a good apology look like, sound like, feel like? And, as the name suggests, Dr. Lerner discusses the apologies we sometimes don't get, why we don't get them, and what (if anything) we can do about it.
Ever felt as if the apology you received was less than sincere? This book will explain why. Ever been the provider of a less than sincere apology and wondered why the hurt part didn't seem to forgive you? You'll find a likely explanation here as well. The bottom line is we have all been in positions of both wanting an apology and recognizing we needed to provide any apology (even if we didn't want to). In this short little manual (I read it in one sitting), Dr. Lerner can make you an apology master.